" I responded, "Well, Dale, that's gone." She became very grave, "Really? but these are the little things we learned at our mother's knee...you mean you don't see women doing these little unspoken things, that interest a man? In fact, many men have come to think women don't even like men, because of the way women react to their initial overtures yet, the women wonder why men aren't asking them out, they're either not saying yes, or they're not sending the signals." Dale said, "Oh dear, this is serious, I have to talk to some of these women; something basic to our culture is being lost. Valentine’s Day to pass without a post on the need for Catholic courtship in the modern world.Courtship is an art that is becoming more and more rare in a society that places increasing importance on impure pleasures and immediate satisfaction.We could all learn a thing or two from the men of the “greatest generation,” especially the importance of dating intentionally.If there’s one thing we modern men seem to struggle with, it’s indecisiveness. So rather than setting a goal, like marriage, and pursuing it with gusto, we meander around, taking our time, waiting for some undetermined sign to reveal to us how we should proceed. We might even get serious and talk about marriage, but we are afraid to commit.Being a single man with a vested interest in the topic, I offered her some of my thoughts on the matter, knowing that she often gives talks to single women and hoping she might pass on an involved man's perspective.I said, "Dale, these women are not giving us any cues that they want to be asked out, and without some indication or encouragement that he might be well received, a man is not going to risk the rejection—which men are far more sensitive to than women evidently realize." She thought for a moment and said, "When I was college age, and I was at a party, and there was a certain fellow that I wanted to come talk to me, there was just a certain way I could stand, and he would be over within minutes!
There wasn’t any thought of hooking up, or of dating on and off till their mid thirties, or of living in their parents basement until they landed a cushy job.Whereas Catholic courtship used to be passed from father to son, the Catholic resurgence in young adults has left many men without the focus necessary to sustain a true courtship.Catholic male courtship focuses intensely on respect, patience, and prayer. In choosing a woman to ask on a date, the Catholic Gentleman looks for a woman who obtains many of the virtues found in the Blessed Mother.No, they were more than ready for the responsibility of marriage and family.And they went looking for a wife, not a girlfriend.